How do we become the best version of ourselves? What does it mean? Who do I want to be? How does someone become who they want to be?

For a forewarning: As of now, I am a very spiritual person, not exactly religious, however. I currently believe in a higher being/ state of consciousness that something created everything. So when I mention God or Jesus, this is my current understanding of them. As always, what I know now will soon change as I continue to evolve and grow.

To learn more about what these unsolvable meditations are, click this link. I write these to myself each morning to help me try and better understand life. These are not meant to portray having all the answers. They are only posted to open up the possibility of a better version of you. We can only do this by admitting our previous selves as wrong.

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Meditation to Myself

Dec 21 2022

Dear Jack,

While life grows, so does the amount of things to juggle. Making moderation and balance harder and harder to find. Recently, a constant feeling of wishing I had more time to work for my personal growth clouds over me. So many things to juggle, and the feeling of not having enough time to learn to become the best version of myself. What does it mean to be the best version of myself? Who do I want to be? The answers to these questions are constantly changing. So this would then mean that these questions have no final answer. The best life questions are the ones that can’t be solved. But as I believe now, the answers to unsolvable questions are continuing to look for the answers despite this fact. Finding the meaning of life is the process of looking for it itself. So the answer to the best version of myself is the process of trying to find it. 

But how do I be the best version of myself if my peaks of understanding happen when I am not around others? As I am realizing, there is a big trade-off here. I can either understand more and get closer to the unsolvable answers, but as a result, I am spending much of my time alone. It’s not that I am unhappy in this state, but I am definitely happier when I am surrounded by others. I believe loneliness is a universal truth. We are never truly happier by ourselves. So am I really the best version of myself if I understand more but in a state of less happiness? Or is understanding less while being happy a better version of me? As always, the answer seems to be moderation. Which is a hard line to find. To be the best version of myself, both of these have to be a part of the equation. The reason I know this is because happiness certainly does play a big part in the equation. It’s an amplifier. And if speed is the name of the game, happiness would in theory help us understand concepts faster. Understand what exactly though? Understanding the meaning of life. Understanding how to be the best version of ourselves. By ourselves, we are completely empty. By empty, I mean meaningless. Nothing matters by ourselves alone. It’s when you add others to the equation that you make something meaningful. You could become the closest thing to perfect in becoming the best version of yourself, but without others to share it with, how does that matter at all? This seems to be the reason why God created us in the first place. With God on a level of consciousness that we can’t even comprehend, why would he ever need to create us? Because by ourselves, all things are empty, including the creator of everything. 

So what should I do now in the moments of loneliness and understanding paired with others and happiness? Meditation around appreciation paired with acceptance. Appreciate the moment of now however you are spending it. To appreciate something means focusing on the present and the absence of the concept. If per se, you are by yourself and increasing your understanding, appreciate this newfound understanding, but also feel the absence of others and why it’s so meaningful to your happiness. You would apply this and vice versa with anything you are trying to moderate. Because as we know, we must accept our human limitations. We are never going to get everything right. And as we continue to learn, we are always going to prove our previous selves wrong. We can’t do everything all at once. So for this meditative problem above, pair appreciation and acceptance when you feel you have run into this problem again. Understanding needs happiness. Happiness needs understanding.

So now that I know that surrounding yourself with others, paired with asking the most important life questions by ourselves for heightened understanding are both needed… what’s next? The next question to ask is who do I want to be? This will lead us in the direction of understanding the right things. Without this direction, we can certainly understand a lot, but most of it will be useless if it’s not guiding us to what the best version of ourselves looks like. There will always be more to learn and understand. This doesn’t mean we are dissatisfied with the way we are now, it just means we are aware of the understanding of evolution. There is always another extension of limit to pursue. There never is a point where you reach an actual destination. Life itself is a constant process of evolution. So where do we want this evolution to lead us?

From, Yourself

Part 2 coming soon for our next unsolvable meditation…